Sober Valentine's Day Date Ideas

The holidays are often spent returning to socially expected activities and forms of celebration.

If you're recovering from substance abuse or have a partner who is, the prospect of Valentine's Day can be a little nerve-wracking if you're used to celebrating with alcohol or other substances.

But holidays can also be opportunities to form new traditions! Unlike some holidays like New Year's Eve or the Fourth of July, which are typically celebrated in large groups, Valentine's Day is about spending quality time alone with someone special to you. Basically, it's all about being with your partner. So take the opportunity to celebrate in the way that's best for both of you. And if abstaining from substances is best for you, you should enjoy the day that way!

A crucial part of dating someone in addiction recovery (or anyone else) is communication. Especially if it's a relatively new relationship or you haven't been together during the recovery process, it's hugely beneficial for everyone involved to be honest about what they're comfortable with, where the line is, and what's excessive. said line.

Even if you or your loved one have no history of substance abuse, it may be good for your relationship to try a few consciously alcohol-free dates; This could also apply to couples under 21.

Let's face it, dates can be awkward, especially the first few. So it makes sense that we've come to expect our dating culture to include some form of alcohol to alleviate some of that initial awkwardness.But to truly get to know your partner and have a successful relationship (and vice versa), you need to be able to easily go out without drinking; Yes, that includes intimacy (emotional and physical), meaningful and stimulating conversations, and just plain fun!

Sober Date Ideas: (A side note: Check out Grouping and Valentine's Day specials for many of these options if money seems daunting.)

• Going out to dinner at a nice restaurant: For some people with a history of substance abuse, going to a restaurant that serves alcohol and offers alcohol to people around them is a situation that can be detrimental to their recovery process. For other people with similar stories, such a situation is not a problem. This is where honest communication comes into play; Once everyone agrees on what is beneficial for your health and recovery goals, you can then decide whether or not this option is best for your relationship.

• Going to a cafe or restaurant for breakfast: These are great ways to still have a typical “date” without the fear of violating the “no, we don’t have to see the wine list” rule or getting surrounded become . from others who drink alcohol. There are many upscale brunch restaurants that still have a festive look, and breakfast foods are arguably the best food group.• Staying at home and cooking together: This can be a romantic way to celebrate Valentine's Day in a “classic” way, staying away from the temptations of past substances or habits. This date can also serve as an opportunity for you and your partner to socialize, as cooking (depending on your level of experience and the recipe you choose) can be difficult!

• Staying at home, ordering takeout and starting a new TV series together: This is the more relaxed yet intimate version of the above date option, which might be best for many people who lead busy lives . or not. See your partner very often. Plus, starting a TV series together is a commitment and guarantees more appointments!

• Take a class – it could be anything from woodworking, painting, Zumba, lettering or cooking!Find an activity or topic that interests you and follow it!

• Go to a game, show, concert, or movie theater: This is a classic date option that can easily be substance-free. However, in some of these situations, alcohol is readily available. Therefore, make sure that you and your partner are on the same page regarding your well-being.

• Go to a museum: There are many different types of museums (art, natural history, technology, toys, wax, etc.), and they can offer audiences different experiences, from the traditional “look but don't touch.” ” ” in a more interactive way.A visit to a museum could be a great opportunity to learn more about something you didn't know while learning more about your loved one.

• Take a bus or walking tour: Even if you know the ins and outs of your city, there are many different types of tours, from food tours to ghost tours to architect tours. There is always more to learn and this can be a date that is very structured if that worries you.

• Bowling, mini golf, arcades - they may seem a little cliche or juvenile, but they have been trendy ideas for so long and for good reason. They're all structured activities that keep you busy enough to avoid discomfort, but still leave you free enough to have a real conversation. These throwback dates can even evoke a sense of nostalgia and awkward first date memories that can lead to great bonding moments.• Going Out: These date ideas may depend on where you live and weather conditions, but most of them can be customized or adjusted to suit your circumstances. You can picnic, hike, bike, rock climb (there are some indoor options), visit a dog park, or go canoeing or kayaking, hammocking, stargazing, etc. Basically, go where you can enjoy nature and do everything, which also includes spending time together.

• Take a drive: Stock up on some classic road trip snacks, create custom playlists, or find an interesting podcast and hit the road without a destination in mind: focus on the person you're with the one you drive, and watch where the path takes you. !

I would add the caveat that these sober ways of celebrating can also apply to other holidays: like Valentine's Day, weddings, birthdays, and even holidays that typically involve alcohol, like New Year's Eve. The most important thing about any holiday is the people with whom it is celebrated and the occasion or person being celebrated, not the way in which it is celebrated or not.