How to Celebrate Valentine's Day If You've Just Started Dating

When my now-husband and I approached our first Valentine's Day, we weren't even really together yet.

We'd gone out a few times, talked on the phone sporadically, and barely noticed that we wanted to spend more time together in the future. Before we could even discuss our plans, or lack thereof, for the vacation, he planned a movie night with friends, invited me over, and that was that.

A movie night was the perfect solution to our new relationship, but looking back, I can see how awkward it may have been to experience Valentine's Day as a newlywed couple. If you're still figuring out how you feel about each other, how are you supposed to celebrate a holiday that's all about love and romance? Here are three tips for celebrating when you're currently on a date.

Speak Out

Whatever you do, don't avoid talking about how you're going to spend your day just because you're nervous about an awkward conversation. Ignoring Valentine's Day when you're currently on a date may seem like an easy way out, but it's also a recipe for disappointment and unfulfilled expectations. The conversation doesn't have to be a big deal. Just check in with base in a few weeks to see what the other person thinks and don't be afraid to voice your opinion. If you're not ready for the pressure that comes with Valentine's Day , be honest ,Also be honest if you want to celebrate or have certain expectations.

Consider Committing

A movie night with a few friends was a great idea for my husband and I when we were just starting dating. We were able to spend the night together as we both had hoped, but it was completely stress-free and a good starting point for spending more time together in the future. If you want to be together on Valentine's Day but find dinner too intimate for your new relationship, think about a compromise that's more comfortable for both of you. In addition to hanging out with friends at , a relaxing brunch, spending time outdoors hiking or ice skating, or visiting a museum are all ideas you can use to socialize on Valentine's Day.

Keep gifts simple or avoid them altogether.

gifts are a fun way to show someone how much you care, but they can also cause a lot of anxiety in the giver when you're still in the getting-to-know-you phase. In the first few weeks or months, it is very difficult to assess what types of gifts are appropriate for the maturity of the relationship. When your relationship goes long distance, there is plenty of time to shower each other with thoughtful gifts. This year, instead of worrying about what to buy or how much to spend, focus on getting to know yourself. This is one of the things you should talk about in advance to decide together if gift giving is really what you want. If you decide to exchange gifts, set a precedent from the start by setting strict parameters. You could trade your favorite books or movies, choose board games that only require two players, trade restaurant gift cards for future date nights, or simply set a strict budget, such as $20 or less.

Ultimately, Valentine's Day can certainly be special, but it's just another day like any other. Take a deep breath, ignore the added pressure, and focus on enjoying each other's company.