10 tips for singles for Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day is here again. That day, once a year, with all the memories of heady romance, dinner dates, red roses, chocolate hearts...

If you're in the middle of a breakup or single after a divorce, all that sentimental love stuff is probably that Last thing you need now. I know, I was there. It's easy to feel depressed, lonely, and sad and imagine that everyone else is having a wonderful time with their partner.

I'm here to remind you that you have a choice.You can make the conscious decision to think and feel differently.

You have the power to control the remote control of your brain and change the way you feel.

That's why I've put together my top 10 tips to rethink Valentine's Day this year.

Get a dose of reality

You might think that everyone else is out, everyone is in love and enjoying a romantic dinner with red wine and roses. But pause. Remember that the perfect picture is probably not true in many relationships. How many times have you seen couples sitting on opposite sides of a table not really talking? Reality is not really as portrayed in the media!

HAVE AN “ALTERNATIVE” VALENTINE’S NIGHT

Spend the evening with other people in a similar situation. Get together with your single friends and have an anti-Valentine's Day get-together or game night. Play loud music and dance in the kitchen. Watch a film that is as far from a romantic comedy as possible!

SHOW LOVE

How could you show yourself some love?Buy flowers, go on a “date” with your kids, watch a funny movie, or buy chocolates. Why should you trust someone else to do it for you?

BOOST YOUR ENDORPHINS

Be kind to yourself and do something that you know will cheer you up, make you feel better and increase your endorphin levels. Go for a jog, walk, ride a bike, go to a comedy night, or watch a funny movie.

Focus away from what you're missing.

Instead of thinking about what you may be missing, focus on what you will NOT have to endure anymore. What always bothered you about your ex? What little habits do you not miss?

Focus on what you've GAINed, whether it's time to pursue a new hobby or the freedom to eat something your ex hated. What can you do now that you couldn't do before?

Stay away from social networks.

Disconnect from social networks. Don't check on your ex to see what he's doing. Therein lies the madness; I consider it a form of torture. You don't need to see these things anymore.

Instead, refocus on yourself and what you can do to make things a little easier.

SHOW YOUR LOVED ONES HOW MUCH YOU APPRECIATE THEM.

Valentine's Day isn't necessarily about romantic love. So today let your children, your family and your friends know how much you love and appreciate them. Call your best friend and tell him how much you appreciate the support he showed you during your breakup.

SPREAD THE LOVE!

Do something good for someone else. Doing kind things for another person increases our levels of serotonin, the neurotransmitters that help us feel content and content. Many antidepressants work by increasing serotonin levels in our bodies. Why not do the same by simply doing something good for someone else?

Look at the little things that are good in your life.

Gratitude is a fantastic antidote to stress. Write a list of all the things in your life that you are grateful for and stick it on your refrigerator. Focus on it for 30 seconds and notice how you feel.Do you notice that your mood is improving? Consciously looking for the good things we have also stimulates feel-good hormones and trains your brain to look for the positive things, even when things seem really challenging.

Know that this too will happen. Remember that this too shall pass. You'll feel better, you'll get through this. If this is your first Valentine's Day alone, know that you'll never have to experience that "first" day again.Next time it will always be easier.